How to decide who you are

Life is not easy, it is not. Life's not fair, it isn't now, it never was and it won't ever be.

Do not fall into the trap - the entitlement trap of feeling like you're a victim. You are not. Get over it and get on with it.

The question that we have to ask ourselves is what life is to us - what does your life mean to you?

Maybe it's a happy family. Maybe it's a marriage. Maybe it's to help others. Maybe it's to be famous or to leave the world a little bit better than how you have found it. Continue to ask yourself that question. Your answer might change over time - and that's fine. But do yourself this favor: Whatever your answer is, don't choose anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are and who you want to be.

Be brave, take the hill, but first answer that question - "What's my hill?"

So first, we have to define what life means to us for ourselves. The first step that leads to our identity in life is usually not "I know who I am." That's not the first step. The first step is usually "I know who I am not."

Defining ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are.

And yes - knowing who you are is hard. Give yourself a break from time to time. Eliminate who you are not first and you're going to find yourself where you need to be. 

We try our best, but we don't always do our best. Since we are the architects of our own lives, let's study the habits, the practices and the routines that we have that lead to and feed our joy, our honest pain, our laughter and emotions.

We are all going to make mistakes. We have to accept that and move on. So turn the page, get off the ride and always keep in mind: You are the author of the book of your life.

You Decide Who You Are.